Njengoba imikhuba yomshado nesehlukaniso iye yashintsha phakathi namashumi eminyaka, kanjalo nokuvezwa kwakho kumabonakude, muva nje ezinhlelweni ezifana noGeorge & Tammy, Best Things neDivorce.
Ngomhla zingama-26 kuMasingana, 1992, u-Hillary Clinton wenza inhlolokhono eMizuzwini engama-60.Umculi we-Cabaret u-Jennifer Flowers usanda kuvulela amaphephandaba mayelana nobudlelwano bakhe besikhathi eside nalowo owayengenele ukhetho lobumongameli uBill Clinton.Ehlezi esofeni eduze komyeni wakhe, u-Hillary wayegqoke i-blazer ne-hijab, futhi ukubukeka kwakhe kwakudala kwakubonisa ukuzimela kwakhe.
“Angiyena owesifazane omncane ohlezi lapha, ngimi eduze kwendoda yami njengoTammy Wynette,” etshela lowo owayexoxa naye.
Njengoba eyibeka encwadini evulekile, u-Wynette wayeyinganekwane yomculo wezwe ngaleso sikhathi enochungechunge lwamahithi angu-#1, futhi wayethukuthele.“Nkk.UClinton, uthuka wonke umuntu wesifazane nabesilisa abathanda leli culo,” kubhala yena."Ngikholwa ukuthi ucasule wonke umlandeli womculo wezwe langempela nawo wonke umuntu 'ozimele'."
Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyindida enkulu.UClinton umi ngokoqobo eduze kwendoda yakhe kulo sofa okhilimu.Usamile eceleni.Naphezu kwalokho okungase kusikiselwe incwadi yakhe, u-Wynette weza eNashville njengomama ongayedwa futhi wahlukanisa kabili neyodwa, kodwa akazange.
Umlando ka-Wynette - womculo, womshado - uvuselelwa ku-"George & Tammy," uchungechunge olulinganiselwe, olusakazwa ku-Showtime, elidlala uJessica Chastain njengo-Wynette kanye noMichael Shannon njengomyeni wakhe wesithathu, isihlabani sezwe uGeorge Jones. Umlando ka-Wynette - owomculo, owomshado - uvuselelwa ku-"George & Tammy," ochungechungeni olulinganiselwe, olusakazwa ku-Showtime, elidlala u-Jessica Chastain njengo-Wynette kanye no-Michael Shannon njengomyeni wakhe wesithathu, isihlabani sezwe u-George Jones. Indaba ka-Wynette—eyomculo, yomshado—ivuswa ochungechungeni olulinganiselwe lwe-George & Tammy ku-Showtime, edlalwa u-Jessica Chastain njengo-Wynette kanye no-Michael Shannon njengomyeni wakhe wesithathu, isihlabani somculo wezwe u-George Jones. Indaba ka-Wynette - umculo, umshado - iqala kabusha ochungechungeni lwe-Showtime limited u-George & Tammy, elingisa u-Jessica Chastain njengo-Wynette kanye no-Michael Shannon njengomyeni wakhe wesithathu, isihlabani somculo wezwe u-George Jones. Emfanekisweni wayo ogqamile womshado nesehlukaniso, "uGeorge & Tammy" ungomunye wezinhlelo zakamuva - i-HBO remake ethi "Scenes From a Marriage," "Fleishman Is in Trouble," "Better Things," "The Split" - ukucabanga kabusha. kanye nokwenza kube nzima ukumelwa kokuthi umshado uphela nokuthi yini engase ilandele. Emfanekisweni wayo ogqamile womshado nesehlukaniso, "uGeorge & Tammy" ungomunye wezinhlelo zakamuva - i-HBO remake ethi "Scenes From a Marriage," "Fleishman Is in Trouble," "Better Things," "The Split" - ukucabanga kabusha. kanye nokwenza kube nzima ukumelwa kokuthi umshado uphela nokuthi yini engase ilandele. Ekuvezweni kwayo okucashile komshado nesehlukaniso, uGeorge & Tammy ungomunye wemidlalo embalwa yakamuva - ukwenza kabusha kwe-HBO kwe-Scenes from a Marriage, Fleischman in Trouble, Better Things, Split - becabanga kabusha futhi baxabanise umbono wokuthi umshado uphela kanjani nokuthi yini engenzeka ngemuva. . Ekuvezweni kwayo okucashile komshado nesehlukaniso, uGeorge & Tammy ungomunye wemidlalo embalwa yakamuva - inguqulo ye-HBO ethi The Marriage Scene, Fleischman in Trouble, Better Things, Split - ecabanga kabusha futhi ehlanganisa umqondo wokuthi uphele kanjani.umshado nokuthi yini engenzeka ngemva kwawo.
“Kuyathakazelisa ngaso sonke isikhathi uma sishintsha indlela umndeni obukeka ngayo,” kusho u-Abbie Morgan ngomdlalo wakhe wesikrini, iSplit, mayelana nomndeni wabameli abahlukanisile eLondon, eyashicilelwa odabeni lwamasizini amathathu oluphele ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka.unyaka."Ngoba singakwazi ukuveza imibono yethu."
Umlingiswa wokuqala ohlukanisile owavela kuhlelo lwe-TV olubhaliwe kungenzeka ukuthi kwakunguVivian Bagley ku-“Vivian Vance” ku-The Lucy Show, eyaboniswa okokuqala ngo-1962 (The Lucy Show).Umthombo walo mdlalo, inoveli ka-Irene Campin ethi, Life Without George, igxile kwabesifazane ababili abahlukanisile, kodwa naphezu kwalokhu—naphezu kobudlelwane bangempela bukaBall no-Desi Arnaz sebuhlukene—umlingisi wakhe uvezwe njengomfelokazi, okwakucatshangwa ukuthi kwakuwumfelokazi. kuvuse uzwelo olwengeziwe.UCarol Brady we-Brady Family kungenzeka ukuthi uhlukanisile, kodwa umbukiso waqala ngo-1969, unyaka ofanayo lapho iCalifornia yamukela isehlukaniso esingokomthetho, futhi ubunikazi bakhe abuzange bushiwo ngokucacile.Isihlabani sikaMary Tyler Moore Show uMary Richards kwakhangiswa ngaso ukuthi uhlukanisile, kodwa inethiwekhi igcizelela ukuthi umshado usuphelile.
Kodwa-ke, njengoba inhlangano yenkululeko yabesifazane ikhula nezinga lesehlukaniso likhuphuka, abesifazane abadivosile bavama kakhulu esikrinini nangaphandle, futhi abadali bafuna ukuhlola amathuba okulandisa kanye nemiphumela yezenhlalo nezomnotho yesehlukaniso."Ithelevishini ngeminyaka ye-19-70s yayinentshisekelo enkulu ekuhloleni izindaba zomphakathi," kusho u-Ann Burke, umbhali wencwadi ethi The Best of Their Own Writing: Ababhali Abesifazane ku-Post-War Television.“Isehlukaniso siyinkinga yomphakathi.”
Kungani kukhona abalingiswa besilisa abambalwa abahlukanisile abambalwa kangaka, ngaphandle komlingiswa odabukisayo nompofu ku-A Strange Flowers Story?Mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi isehlukaniso sasisho imingcele ephansi yezezimali kubalingiswa besilisa, okungenzeka ukuthi base besebenza futhi bejabulela ukuphila kude nasekhaya isikhathi eside.Amathuba okubonakala okusha ancishiswa abe amancane.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda ahlukanisile ngokuvamile abhekwa njengantula uzwela.(Ufuna uzwela? Bhala ngomfelwa.) Uma owesifazane efundiswa ukufuna umshado, ukuhlakanipha okuvamile ukuthi inkosikazi kumelwe ibe nezizathu ezinhle zokushiya umshado.Futhi uma umshado uphela ngaye, khona-ke ubonakala efanelwe ukuzwela okwengeziwe.Ukukhululwa kwabesilisa kube nemiphumela embalwa emphakathini.
Ngama-70s nasekuqaleni kwawo-80s, abesifazane abahlukanisile nabahlukanisile babeyisihloko sama-sitcom amaningi njenge-One Day at a Time, That's Life, Alice, Maude, kanye noRhoda.-off "Mary Tyler Moore".Kule mibukiso egxile kwabesifazane basemadolobheni abasebenzayo nabasezingeni eliphakathi, isehlukaniso ngokuvamile siwukulimala kwezomnotho nezenhlalo okubekezelelwa yiqhawekazi, iqhawekazi, noma umlingani wakhe ngesibindi.
Ekuqaleni kwawo-2000, kwavela uhlobo olusha lowesifazane ohlukanisile.Kusukela ku-“Charlotte” kwethi “Sex and the City” (yethulwe okokuqala ngo-1998) kuya ku-“We Got Married” (2007-2008) kanye naku-“The Girl’s Guide to Divorce” (2014-18), ukuvezwa kwesehlukaniso sekube muhle kakhulu futhi nelungelo.kuyiphuzu elikhulu letulo, ukuhlukana kunikeza abesifazane ithuba lokuphinde bazitholele bona, nakuba ukukhululwa kwabo kuvame ukukhawulelwa ekukhetheni impilo ewubukhazikhazi kanye nokuthola ozakwethu abasha.Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi abesifazane abadivosi kuphela abashade nabo, kodwa futhi nezindaba ezibanzi zezepolitiki.(Omunye umbukiso obalulekile: I-Design of Women, eyaphela ngo-1993, ibonise umlingiswa oyedwa ohlukanisile, u-Annie Potts kaMary Jo, owayetshale imali enkulu enkululekweni yabesifazane, nomunye, uSuzanne kaDelta Burke, owayengashadile.)
USuzanne Leonard, uprofesa wesiNgisi eSimmons University nombhali we-Company of Wives: The Business of Marriage in the 21st Century, ubona imibukiso enjalo njengezibonelo ze-post-feminism noma “choice feminism,” okuwumbono lapho noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane enza kuwo. kubonakale njengamalungelo namathuba okungenzeka andise.“Phakathi negagasi lesibili lokulwela amalungelo abantu besifazane, kwakunezinkulumo eziningi mayelana nomthelela wezezimali wesehlukaniso,” kusho yena."Futhi leyo miphumela ithulisiwe ngempela."
Lokhu kugcizelelwa kwenkululeko yalo wesifazane kuye kwaqhubeka ezinhlelweni ezifana nethi The Amazing Mrs.Unkosikazi, lapho unkosikazi kasopolitiki ephumelela ngemva kokubhidlika komshado wakhe (futhi udalula nezimiso zakhe zokuziphatha ezingabazisayo).
Kodwa phakathi neminyaka emihlanu edlule, imibukiso eyengeziwe iye yaqala ukuhlola uhlangothi lwenqubo yesehlukaniso.(Inkululeko yabesilisa? Isikhathi sakho sesifikile.) U-Sharon Hogan (“Inhlekelele”) udale i-Divorce, eyasakazwa ku-HBO kusukela ngo-2016 kuya ku-2019 ngenkathi umshado wakhe usaphila.Kodwa noma kunjalo, wayezimisele ukukhombisa izinhlangothi zombili zokuhlukana.Engxoxweni yocingo yakamuva, uthe unentshisekelo "yokuhlola i-trigger ngokuthi ubani omsusayo noma omubi nakakhulu nokuthi yiziphi izinhlamvu ezingathanda ukubuya."
“Isehlukaniso” nalabo ababephila ngesikhathi saso - “Inyama Esenkingeni”, “Uthando”, “Izigcawu Ezivela Ekuphileni Komshado” - zibonisa ukuthi isehlukaniso akudingeki sibe inhlekelele noma impumuzo.(I-New Adventures of Old Christina, iqhawekazi lakhe elalididekile ngaphambi kwesehlukaniso sakhe njengoba lalinjalo, lalingumanduleli owayenempikiswano.) Le mibukiso iyaphikisana ngokuthi isehlukaniso sizoxazulula izinkinga ezithile, kodwa ngeke zixazulule ezinye.akuvamile ukuthi kusho isiphetho sokugcina sobuhlobo, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ezinganeni.
“Lena imfihlo okungekho muntu ozothi: Uma usuthanda umuntu, awuyeki ukumthanda,” kusho u-Abe Sylvia, umdali we-“George & Tammy”. “Lena imfihlo okungekho muntu ozothi: Uma usuthanda umuntu, awuyeki ukumthanda,” kusho u-Abe Sylvia, umdali we-“George & Tammy”.“Kuyimfihlo okungekho muntu ozokusho: uma uthanda umuntu, ngeke uyeke ukumthanda,” kusho u-Abe Sylvia, umdali weGeorge noTammy. “這是沒有人会說的秘密：一旦你爱一个人，你就不会停止爱他們，”“George & Tammy”的创作者 Abe Sylvia. “這是沒有人会說的秘密：一旦你爱一个人，你就不会停止爱他們，”“George & Tammy”的创作者 Abe Sylvia. “Nansi imfihlo okungekho muntu owake wayidalula: uma usuthanda umuntu, awuyeki ukumthanda,” kusho umdali kaGeorge & Tammy u-Abe Sylvia."Ungaba nentukuthelo nokucasuka okukhulu, kodwa konke kuvela kumgogodla wokuxhumana ovinjiwe."
I-“George & Tammy” iveza isehlukaniso njengesidingo, umphumela wotshwala bukaGeorge. I-“George & Tammy” iveza isehlukaniso njengesidingo, umphumela wotshwala bukaGeorge.Incwadi ethi “George noTammy” iveza isehlukaniso njengomphumela odingekayo wotshwala bukaGeorge. “George & Tammy”将离婚描述為必要的，這是乔治酗酒的结果. UGeorge & TammyI-“George noTammy” iveza isehlukaniso njengomphumela odingekayo wotshwala bukaGeorge.Kodwa lo mthetho awuzange unqamule izibopho phakathi kwalokhu okubili, okwase kuhlangene kokubili ngokomuntu siqu nangokomsebenzi.Isehlukaniso asimkhululi uTammy.Umshado wakhe owalandela nombhali wengoma nomdidiyeli uGeorge Rich (Steve Zahn) uchazwe njengomubi kakhulu.Izinkinga ezifanayo ezahlupha uTammy ngaphambi kwesehlukaniso sakhe - umsebenzi onzima owagcina uthinte impilo yakhe nokuthanda kwakhe kakhulu - wahlala naye.
“Ingabe abantu bayawathola la mandla esenzweni sesithathu?Ngicabanga ukuthi kungamanga,” kusho uSylvia.“Sonke sihlale sithwele imithwalo yabo bonke ubudlelwano bethu.UGeorge noTammy bathembekile ngakho.”
Izinga lezehlukaniso liye lehla eminyakeni yamuva, ngokwengxenye ngenxa yokuthi inani lemishado nalo liye lehla.(Ngokokubalwa kwabantu kwakamuva, abantu baseMelika abangu-5.1 kwabangu-1 000 bashadile futhi abangu-2,3 bahlukanisile.) Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ezinye izingxenye zesiko zibonakala zinomuzwa wokuthi izakhiwo zomkhaya ezingokwesiko zidinga ukusindiswa—ngokwesibonelo, i-TikTok ithuthukisa ukuphila. Ividiyo noma i-Republican Rhetoric Condemning No-Fault Divorce Divorce, nokho, ingase inikeze ithuba lokucabanga kabusha ngalezi zakhiwo ngendlela enempilo, njengoba yenza.
"Ziningi izindlela zokuqala umndeni," kusho u-Ona Gulanik, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nesihlabani sochungechunge lwe-Showtime I-Couples Therapy, engxoxweni yakamuva yocingo.“Indoda nomfazi emshadweni othile inketho nje.”
Eminye yemidlalo yangaphambili ibinikeza ezinye izakhiwo zomndeni.Encwadini ethi The Golden Girls, eyaqala ngo-1985, isehlukaniso sikaDorothy noStan siholela ezinhlelweni zakhe zokuhlala ezintsha. I-"Kate & Allie," eyaqala ngonyaka owandulele, iveza iphupho elihle lapho abesifazane ababili abadivosile kanye nezingane zabo bekwazi ukwabelana nge-brownstone yonke yaseWest Village. I-"Kate & Allie," eyaqala ngonyaka owandulele, iveza iphupho elihle lapho abesifazane ababili abadivosile kanye nezingane zabo bekwazi ukwabelana nge-brownstone yonke yaseWest Village.UKate no-Ellie, abaqale ngonyaka owedlule, kuyiphupho elihle lapho abesifazane ababili abahlukanisile nezingane zabo behlala yonke indlu yaseWest Village brownstone. UKate & Ally, eyaboniswa okokuqala ngonyaka odlule, iyiphupho elihle lapho abesifazane ababili abahlukanisile nezingane zabo behlala yonke indlu yaseWest Village brownstone.Muva nje kwethi Better Things and Split, abesifazane abadivosile bangaphila ukuphila okucebile nokunenjongo ngaphandle kokufuna abantu abasha.
Encwadini ethi Better Things, ephethwe ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka, u-Pamela Adlon udlala u-Sam, umama ongayedwana nomlingisikazi okhokhelwayo isizinda sakhe sifana nesika-Adlon.Njengoba kunamadodakazi amathathu akhulayo, iqembu labangane abakhuthele, nomama ngaphesheya komgwaqo, impilo kaSam imatasa kakhulu.
Kuze kube yisizini yesithathu yombukiso, ukhumbula ephendula imibuzo kwabezindaba mayelana nokuthi u-Sam angase amataniswe nobani, eqinisa nakakhulu ukuzimisela kuka-Adlon ukushiya uSam engashadile.“Kungaleso sikhathi lapho ngabona khona ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhlala ngisendleleni ngizindla ngempilo yami kanye nempilo yabanye abantu besifazane abaningi abangakaze bakhe kabusha imindeni yabo,” kusho yena.
Lesi ngesinye sezipho ezinhle kakhulu zikamabonakude – amandla okukhombisa impilo yethu kithi, okusivulela ithuba elisha.Isibonelo, isiphetho se-"The Split" sigcizelele ubudlelwano phakathi kuka-Hannah Nicole Walker nomndeni wakhe kunokumphushela kumlingani omusha.
UMorgan uqophe iziphetho ezimbili, esinye sazo esiveza ikusasa lothando likaHana.“Kodwa empeleni, lapho ngiyibona, ngashaywa umoya,” kusho yena.“Ngicabanga ngabo bonke abangane bami abaye bahlukana, futhi ngesizathu esithile ngiphinda inkulumo ethi: “Awuphelele kuze kube yilapho usunobuhlobo obusha.”
UMorgan akaphikisani nothando, wachaza, hhayi ngokumelene nomshado.Wayenomyeni wakhe, umlobi uJacob Krichefsky, iminyaka engu-22.Kodwa ukholelwa kwezinye izinhlobo zothando, ukubambisana nomndeni.
“Abantu bahlale befuna isiphetho esijabulisayo,” kusho yena."Sishintsha nje umbono wokuthi siyini isiphetho esijabulisayo."
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Dec-16-2022